Soul Matters for Parents & Guardians

Our Soul Matters Group for parents and guardians is a circle of parents, guardians and others who take care (or will soon take care) of our little ones, but it is not a parent circle! The discussions will be based on the monthly theme the church is exploring and offers a space for you to bring your whole self, spend time with other adults and to reflect and recharge… A mini-retreat of sorts. A space for quiet reflection, deep listening and enjoying community connections.

Logistics

  • Start in the service and come join us in the Farmhouse common room when the children and youth go to their programs.
  • You don’t need to commit to the series of workshops – come to one or more as time allows.
  •  Some background reading on deep listening for Soul Matters groups.
  • The group is facilitated by Arran Liddel & Jen Rashleigh.
  • Tea, coffee and snacks will be provided.

Upcoming dates:

January 27: What Does It Mean To Be A People of Possibility?

Of all our topics this year, possibility is arguably most central to our faith. It has distinguished Unitarian Universalists from the start. Historically, when others saw depravity and sin at the core of human identity, we saw potential–sometimes with hardly any boundaries. When many were preaching that this world was fallen, and we should look instead to the hope of an afterlife, we found ourselves falling in love with the possibility of heaven on earth. Theologically, you might say that we were the people that believed that God hadn’t given up on any of us and so we shouldn’t give up on each other or this world. Psychologically, it’s led to us being a people of “why not?” Why not give people another chance? Why not fight what seems a losing battle? Why not risk a little failure? After all, to us the possible has always seemed more likely than not!

So that’s our religion. But what about us personally? How open have you been recently to “Why not?” How’s your faith in possibility doing? As we honour our religion’s trust in what’s possible, we need to allow space for the reality that trusting possibility isn’t so easy for many of us.

February 10: What Does It Mean To Be A People of Trust

In religious circles, “trust talk” most often revolves around having faith that life will look after us. For instance, our Christian friends sing hymns about God “watching over us” and keeping “an eye on the sparrow.” Our Jewish friends lift up the Exodus story to encourage faith that God will help us make our way even when things look bleak. Likewise, prayer practice for our Muslim friends is all about reminding oneself that you are in Allah’s safe hands. We UUs translate similar sentiments using the language of trusting “a Love that will not let us go.”

This call to trust Life’s support comes to us as a gift. After all, it’s all too easy to convince ourselves that life is a foe. So we need our faith communities to restore our faith that life is ultimately a friend. An yet, everyone’s heart is wrestling with a loss of faith in its own way. The trust you need to repair is likely different than mine. What we both long for is safe(r) space. Space to say how hard that work of repair is. Space to say how much it hurts to have to repair it in the first place.

March 10: What Does It Mean To Be A People of Journey?

We UUs love to tell our journey stories. And hear each other’s journey stories. Whereas other religions have newcomers stand up and confess their fallen ways or declare a commitment to one way, we invite each other to talk about how our way is like no other.

It’s a curious thing when you think about it. We welcome people to our fold not by asking them to commit to thinking exactly as the group does, but by having them declare how their journey is not like anybody else in the group. It’s about space not similarity. We bind ourselves to each other not by sharing the same journey but by offering each other the room to discover the unique journey that fits us. It’s about making room for people to write their own stories… Or maybe it’s about making room for people to re-write their stories.