Our Whole Lives for Adults

We are delighted to be able to offer the Our Whole Lives (OWL) comprehensive sexuality education program for adults this year at FUCV. Created by the Unitarian Universalist Association and the United Church of Christ, OWL is used in congregations and community settings across North America (and increasingly the world).

Our Whole Lives for Adults helps you explore sexuality through your values and experiences. Enhance communication skills as you increase your understanding of healthy relationships, sexual diversity, and sexuality throughout the life cycle. It’s the sexuality education opportunity you probably never had growing up.

OWL models and teaches caring, compassion, respect, and justice. It helps adults address their attitudes, values, and feelings about themselves, their sexuality, and others’ sexuality. Participants are guided by trained facilitators through an engaging program that addresses topics many adults have not had the opportunity to discuss in depth.

OWL addresses a wide variety of issues surrounding sexuality, identity, relationships and values, all through a lens that focuses on self worth, sexual health, responsibility,  justice and inclusivity. Our intimate relationships, with self and others, can have a significant effect on our mental and physical health, our sense of personal fulfillment, and our ability to hold compassionately the diverse experiences of other people.

The Adult OWL program gives special consideration to issues around aging and sexuality, the different stages of relationships, and the complexities of sexual and gender identities and expressions.

The Program

The Adult OWL Program will run over six Saturday mornings (usually the second Saturday of the month) from 9-1am at FUCV. We anticipate that the lessons will be divided as follows, but will also be trying to assess group priorities during the first session in case there are other areas we need to bring in.

January 13 – Introduction & Sexuality and Values (1), Sexuality and Communication (2)
February 17 –  Sexuality and Spirituality (3) & Discovering the Sexual Self (4)
March 10 –  Experiencing the Sexual Other (5) & Sexual Attraction and Early Relationships (6)
April 14 –  Sexuality and Developing Relationships (7) & Sexuality and Committed Relationships (8)
May 12 –  Sexual Diversity (9) & Sexuality and Family (10)
June 9 – Sexuality and Aging (11) & Sexual Health (12)

Registration Requirements

Because the program benefits from consistency in the group we will give priority in registration to those who know that their schedule allows them to attend at least five of the six sessions. We build stronger trust and offer better support to one another when we are able to have some shared frames of reference and a covenant that everyone was involved in creating and has committed to. Participants are also required to be at the first session, on January 13th. Our minimum group size is 14 people and the maximum is 20, so we encourage you to register as soon as possible on the FUCV website at https://victoriaunitarian.ca/adult-owl or by calling the office.

The Team

FUCV’s Adult OWL team is composed of Fran Pardee, Peter Hancock, Jacqueline McAdam, and Ministerial Intern, Christopher Wulff. All have been trained to offer Adult OWL by the Unitarian Universalist Association.

Why Do We Offer Sex Ed in the Congregation?

Sexuality is much more than what’s covered in biology class. Sexuality is also about relationships, responsible choices, justice, inclusivity, and self-image… all things which are intertwined with our faith and values. Intentional sexuality education is especially important in a world in which people of all ages are constantly bombarded with media messages about sexuality. Some of the most important “milestone” decisions we make in our lives, such as marriage/life partnership and creating families, involve relationships and sexuality.


Contact Ministerial Intern Christopher Wulff at chris@victoriaunitarian.ca.